Self-Care: How the “Golden Rule” has it Backward
We’ve always been told…
“Treat others like you want to be treated”
AKA Luke 6:31, “Do to others as you would have them do to you” AND Matthew 7:42, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”…it goes back to the biblical ages…Although I completely agree with the concept, I’ve been thinking about it a lot recently, and in this day and age, it seems slightly backward. So many of us are so harsh on ourselves, but kind to others. We’re hearing more and more this word, “self-care,” and I LOVE that it is getting attention. Should the “Golden Rule” be turned on its head to be “Treat yourself as you treat others”?
Like many, I have struggled a long time with complete and utter unconditional self-love. I have been told by close friends I am one of the most genuinely kind and nonjudgmental people they’ve met, but why then is it so difficult to be as genuinely kind and nonjudgmental to my own mind and body? I can say it an infinite number of times and maybe with each I believe it a little more, I am worth it. I would never speak the negative phrases that sometimes pass through my mind to anyone else I care about.
The “Golden Rule” goes both ways. Treat others with love and kindness, but also treat yourself with as much (if not more) love and kindness. Can we be genuinely loving and kind if we cannot even treat ourselves in such a manner? I think the way we treat others is often a reflection of either how we feel about ourselves (ex. very harsh and judgmental), OR how we wish we felt about or treated ourselves (ex. encouraging coworkers to take vacation because they need a break…I do this all the time).
My goal, and invite to you, on this first day of spring and for the next month is to consciously practice self-care and self-love. Treat yourself as you treat those around you. Talk to yourself as you would to the people you love most. Do things you love and that make you appreciate your life. If negative self-talk pops into your head, don’t try to simply push it away, but recognize it and think about why it came up. Notice what or who inspires you, and do that or be around them. Maybe it is getting outside more to hear the birds’ song. Maybe it is laying in a field all day and watching the clouds with someone you love. Maybe it is doing yoga. Maybe it is laughing until you cry with your best friend. Or maybe it is getting weekly messages. Whatever it is, go out and do it! You are worth it! In this, and every moment, you are infinite. ∞
HAPPY SPRING EQUINOX!
P.S. I know I haven’t posted a recipe in QUITE some time, so keep your eyes peeled for a super simple vegan whipped cream shortly!